The whole point of living is to create and enjoy the world around us, through our senses.
So just for today, DO something you find fulfilling;
SMELL something that makes you feel good all over;
TASTE something you find delicious and makes you go Yummmmm;
LISTEN to your favourite sounds whether birds or some special music, your own heartbeat or somebody’s voice you love to hear.
Wear some clothes that feel great on your skin or sleep under your favourite duvet. Stroke or TOUCH an animal or your loved one (including yourself) in the way it makes you go Ahhhhh (of course with their permission).
LOOK at colours and photos that evoke feelings of joy, laughter and happiness. Or watch a film or go for a walk and look at the natural beauty of nature.
Six little ways that ensure everyday happiness, joy and fulfilment and can’t be bought with money. 🙂
Love & Light, Pamela Joy
“Be the change you want to see.” Ghandi
How does that translate into our everyday life?
We’ve all experienced situations where people challenge our patience, good will and kindness, whether at work, in our circle of friends or relatives.
It can be very difficult not to take their actions personally and to maintain a higher perspective. Often other people offer their opinion and get involved, suggesting we should defend ourselves and give them a good telling off.
But acting defensively or retaliating isn’t always exactly helpful.
If we want a peaceful and kind environment, we need to act accordingly. Remembering that often there often is a story behind a person’s constant provocative behaviour, a behaviour pattern that might have been learned as a young person or child and that needs to change.
If we follow the same pattern and react as the person expects us to, we’re not actually helping the situation, the person or ourselves. We need to find a different way.
I suggest, if we want them to be kinder to us, we ‘bombard’ them with kindness. This will break their behaviour pattern and, with time, will hopefully create a new one. Talking from my own experience, this works with children and adults. Do the unexpected which will stop them in their tracks or will, at least, provoke some thought about their actions.
Change takes time, so I never expect a 180 degree turn around the next day. But if I want a joyful, peaceful, honest, kind and respectful environment around me, I have to live by example.
It’s not easy and often my ego gets in the way and wants to react. But it’s “just” my ego talking. As long as I know that I do my work honestly and to the best of my ability, I have peace of mind. Most people know when they are doing wrong. And they need to figure it out by themselves, that there’s another way of being and behaving. We can’t change people. We can only lead by example. And, unfortunately, not everybody wants to change.
Ghandi has been a great inspiration to me. He gives me strength, hope and the desire to persevere when I feel I need it. I’m forever grateful to him.
How has practising Reiki changed my life?
After suffering from yet another episode of depression and anxiety attacks in my late twenties, doctors, again, wanted to fob me off with tablets. I was desperate to find an alternative way. I wanted to take back control of my life without ingesting chemicals. And I wanted a permanent change, not just a bandaid. I looked for courses that would teach me how to self-heal because books can only get you so far. I saw a Reiki Course advertised and something inside me said “go for it”. So I did.
Learning about my own energy levels and centres (Chakras) and how my personal energy can affect my surroundings was mind blowing. It also showed me how to protect myself from outside energies, to keep me “sane” in this sometimes crazy world. This was particularly useful when living in London and working with challenged youngsters as a full-time teacher and health worker. With Reiki, I managed to reach a higher perspective which has helped me to heal what happened in my past and made me enjoy life more in the present.
Reiki allowed me to see the connections of events in my life and taught me how I can influence my future for the better (Law of Attraction).
Reiki is logical and very real, as you can actually feel the energy in form of heat and tingling when channelling or receiving it. And the beauty of it is that you don’t have to subscribe to anything or anyone. All you need is a willingness to heal which may mean to confront your own demons and having an open mind.
I’ve always suffered from cold hands and feet.
When I lay on my hands when intending to give Reiki, either on my own body or hover over someone else’s, I can feel the heat coming through them.
That for me was proof that something was definitely happening here. I give Reiki to myself every night and to other people and beings, every day either in person or over distance healing.
One thing I’ve learned is that distance and time don’t really exist when giving Reiki. Everything is always connected. That’s why I, and everybody, can connect with someone who’s not visibly in front of us. Just like Whatsapp, but energetically. It’s tough to get your head around it, but it works.
I haven’t suffered from panic attacks ever since I did my Reiki course six years ago because I can read the signs early on and then allow myself to take a step back and reaI find it easier to accept things in my life and have also felt that my diet has changed naturally, which obviously has also had an impact on my mental health, going from omnivore gradually to vegan.
As a domino effect, I changed my job and the country I live in and now lead a very balanced, healthy and happy life.
Many of my clients have had similar experiences and the key has always been that they wanted to take back control of their lives. Reiki has been a kick-starter for many!
But it does take time. All major and deep changes take time.
I thank Mikao Usui Sensei and Michael Kaufman Sensei for bringing Reiki into my life. Namaste
Some people have this fascinating ability to always find the negative in everything.
It can be the most beautiful sunny day, they will comment that they heard that it’s going to rain tomorrow. When you walk through a meadow full of wild blooming flowers, they will point out the stinging nettles and most likely walk right into them as well. Of course.
Of course there’s a root for their negative perspective. But sometimes, you don’t have to dig deep to try to find all the answers. Sometimes it’s enough to simply decide to only focus on the positive. It’s like changing the internal programme. The issue I often find is that people are quite happy in their little dark bubble. They are comfortable. Many also use it as an excuse for not doing something i.e. facing their fears, the truth or in order procrastinate doing work. Others prefer “the devil they know” and don’t believe they deserve any better.
If we allow ourselves to only look at the positive, however, or try and learn something out of challenging situations, life will become much lighter and brighter. It’s like putting on a different set of glasses.
This will also have an effect on our health. Positively thinking people tend to have a lower heart rate, heart problems and better digestion. Their immune system is also stronger because we constantly produce “happy” hormones and our body is relaxed.
The key is to turn a switch in your mind.
Meditation is a great way of learning how to do this. But the premise is always the DESIRE to flick the switch, our INTENTION.
Come to our April ReBoot Meditation & Vegan Treatto learn more about changing your perception glasses 🙂
Love & Light, Pamela Joy